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Lessons from the World’s Weirdest Grandma

“Grandma, don’t! That’s stealing!” I whispered from across the table.

Every time we went out to eat with my grandparents, my grandma would sneak all the jelly and sugar packets from the table and put them in her purse. I was mortified, convinced I had the weirdest grandmother on the planet.

My Grandma Gladys, my mother’s mother, was always doing things I found strange, and often embarrassing. She washed and reused plastic baggies and utensils, saved jars and jars full of extra buttons, kept a can of used bacon grease under the kitchen sink, and ate parts of the animal I didn’t even know existed. (Gizzards, anyone?)

She also canned her own jam, cooked meals from scratch, walked to the store instead of driving, crocheted beautiful afghans without using a pattern, and knitted hats, mittens, and slippers for my siblings and me—skills I now admire but once saw as a waste of time.

Many of the “strange” things my grandmother did, I now know had a lot to do with her life circumstances. Born in 1902, she was a married with three children when the U.S. was in the grips of the Great Depression. Like many who lived through that era, she learned to save all the items she had and find ways to reuse them, rather than throw things away.

I, on the other hand, was a privileged child of the ‘80s who had everything I needed and more. I learned about the Great Depression in school, but it seemed more like a story than real life. Poverty, hunger, and desperation were simply words to me. I didn’t understand why my grandma couldn’t just get with the times and live like “normal” people.

Now the tables are somewhat turned. We’re in the midst of what’s been called the Great Recession, and I’m looking for ways to cut back and live on less. I’m learning that accumulating lots of stuff doesn’t make me happy, nor does working in a boring cubicle job whose main purpose is to generate money so I can buy more stuff.

And I’m not alone. There’s a growing trend toward living simply and sustainably, not only as a way to save money, but for better health, greater happiness, and a cleaner environment. When I think about her now, I see my grandma wasn’t weird at all, she was saving the earth!

Today, I’m the one with the reusable bags, cooking meals from scratch, and fixing things that break rather than throwing them away. My other sustainability ventures include going vegan, growing my own vegetables, and buying more things secondhand. I think Grandma would be proud.

Now that I’m older, I see how much I take after my grandmother. My ear for music, my positive attitude, my love of word games and puzzles, and my passion for animals are all traits I inherited from her.
My Grandma Gladys died when I was 19. I loved her so much, but I hadn’t yet learned to appreciate her because of, not in spite of, her peculiarities. If she were alive today, I bet we’d have some amazing talks. And I’d be able to tell her what a cool grandma she turned out to be.

About Cheryl

Cheryl Breuer is a writer who helps people find happiness by challenging social norms and stereotypes, and encouraging ethical, compassionate living. You can read more of her writing on her blog, Peculiar Girl, join her on Facebook, or follow her on Twitter.

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Are you taking care of yourself?

I invite you to close your eyes and picture your favourite bookstore.  Maybe you have a tea in hand as you walk through the aisles of beautiful, shiny books.  Now imagine you are strolling through the Self-help section.  Scan all of the titles.  Move on to the Diet & Nutrition section.  Look at all of the glossy covers and catchy titles.  Finally, move into the Health & Fitness section.  What do you see?

Promises of a better life, a better you. 

There is no shortage of advice on how to improve our lives. Ourselves.  New ways to think.  New foods to eat.  New workouts to try. Tens of thousands of pages, all filled with advice, line the bookstore shelves.  Blogs upon blogs, all filled with advice on what to eat and how to workout.  Podcasts, videos, radio programs – all filled with countless ways to be better.  Thinner. Fitter. Healthier. Have more. Spend less. Do more. Be happier.

I have no problem admitting I am a knowledge junkie.  I love to learn.  I enrolled in a nutrition program – for fun.  And I sincerely enjoy the self-improvement books, blogs, and podcasts.  Now anyways.

I used to feel less than when I consumed this type of content. Too fat.  Too old.  Not pretty enough.  Not smart enough.  Not coordinated enough. 

Not enough. 

Now I take the information the author is sharing, hold it in a space of openness.  Less judgement.  Less taking it personally.  Less overwhelm.  I critically and appreciatively inquire as to whether or not this new piece of information will add value to my life. 

How can this new information serve me? 

I have come to realize that some of it may serve me. None of it may serve me.  All of it may serve me.  And that each of these is okay.  Because I do not need a diet book, a new workout or the latest mind trip to take care of myself. 

I have everything I need to care of myself.  Fully and deeply.

So the next time you feel overwhelmed with content, information, media stop and ask yourself

Am I taking care of myself?

When we are constantly striving, reaching, achieving (and oh do I know about living an achievement oriented life…) we are not focusing on the here and now. We are focusing on the future and then. The future and then robs us of the happiness we could experience in this very moment. And this very moment, this one right here, is all we really ever have.

So buy the books that you feel will serve you well on your journey. Read the blogs that introduce you to foods you have never heard of before. Try new workouts. And when you are uncertain, unsure, overwhelmed, ask yourself

Am I taking care of myself?

You know the answer.

i heart february

February.

The month of love. The shortest month of the year. Trees glisten and sparkle with fresh, white snow. We all eagerly await updates on groundhogs and their shadows. Days become longer. Sun shines brightly. My birthday kicks off the month.

I heart February!

Other ways I show February some love and affection?

1.  A nice mug of Green Tea Kombucha YogiTea. I love this tea. I also enjoy the uplifting messages. Like this one:

The beauty in you is your spirit

Tea and a great little pick-me-up reminder? Yes, please!

2.  February affords us the opportunity to read more. I am currently reading Brene Brown’s new book The Gifts of Imperfection - fantastic book, highly recommend it.

3.  A long, hot bath. Yes.

4.  Flip through the gardening catalogues and envision your garden.

5.  Try something new. I’m going to try Zumba soon! I can’t dance but who cares, right?

6.  Start your spring cleaning early – it is freeing to declutter.

7.  Clean your fridge. I did this recently. It is very cathartic. I am enjoying Dr. Bronner’s magic liquid soap. Citrus – instant pick me up for the senses!

8.  Try a new recipe

9.  Host a soup party

10.  Create a vision board

How do you heart February?